Better to Fail Gloriously ✨

What Anthony Bourdain Taught Me About Taking Chances, Starting Over, and Trusting the Journey

“Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is simply try. — Anthony Bourdain

Chef Anthony Bourdain

There’s something about June that feels hopeful.

Maybe it’s the longer days, the farmers markets bursting with color, or the smell of freshly cut grass drifting through an open window.

Or maybe it’s because summer always feels like a fresh start.

A new season.

A chance to begin again.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about Anthony Bourdain and one of my favorite quotes from him:

“It’s better to try and fail gloriously than to not try at all.”

Every time I hear those words, they stop me in my tracks.

Because if I’m being honest, there have been plenty of times in my life when I almost didn’t try.

Times when I questioned myself.

Times when I wondered if I was too old, too late, too inexperienced, or simply not good enough.

Moving to New York City.

Starting The Artful Gourmet.

Launching a podcast.

Creating YouTube videos.

Applying for dream jobs.

Pitching magazines.

Putting myself out there creatively.

None of it came with a guarantee.

And that’s exactly why it mattered.


Anthony Bourdain Wasn’t an Overnight Success

One of the things I admire most about Bourdain is that his success story wasn’t neat and tidy.

For years he worked in restaurant kitchens, often struggling, often wondering what was next.

Before he became a bestselling author, television host, and one of the most respected storytellers in the world, he was simply a chef trying to make a living.

Then, at age 44, everything changed.

His book Kitchen Confidential became a phenomenon and launched a second act that nobody could have predicted.

Imagine if he had talked himself out of writing it.

Imagine if he thought it was too late.

Imagine if he never took the chance.

The world would have missed out on one of its greatest voices.

And that’s a lesson worth remembering.

Just because something hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it never will.


Curiosity Is Greater Than Fear

One of Bourdain’s most famous quotes was:

“Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts. It even breaks your heart. But that’s okay.”

I think that quote applies to life just as much as travel.

Life isn’t always comfortable.

Building a business isn’t comfortable.

Changing careers isn’t comfortable.

Starting over certainly isn’t comfortable.

But growth rarely happens inside our comfort zone.

The most meaningful things in my life have happened because I was willing to get uncomfortable.

Not because I knew exactly what would happen.

But because I was curious enough to find out.

Bourdain approached the world with curiosity.

He sat down with strangers.

He tried unfamiliar foods.

He visited places most tourists would never go.

He listened.

He learned.

He stayed open.

What if we approached our own lives the same way?

What if instead of focusing on what could go wrong, we focused on what we might discover?

Progress Isn’t Always Visible

One of the hardest things about pursuing a dream is that progress often happens quietly.

You put in the work.

You show up.

You keep creating.

And sometimes it feels like nothing is happening.

I’ve felt that way more times than I can count.

But then I look back and realize something important:

The growth was happening all along.

The connections.

The skills.

The experience.

The confidence.

The opportunities.

They were all building beneath the surface.

Much like a garden in spring.

The seeds don’t bloom overnight.

But they’re growing.

Even when you can’t see it.

That’s why I think summer is such a beautiful reminder to keep going.

Everything around us is proof that growth takes time.

Spring Vegetable Soup

A Bowl of Soup and a Fresh Start

Whenever the seasons change, I find myself drawn back to simple recipes.

Food has always been my way of slowing down and reconnecting with myself.

This Spring Minestrone Soup is exactly that.

Fresh peas.

Tender zucchini.

Green beans.

Herbs from the garden.

Bright lemon.

A little Parmesan.

Simple ingredients that come together to create something nourishing and comforting.

And honestly?

It feels like a metaphor for life.

A handful of small things can become something beautiful when given enough time.

The same is true for dreams.

Spring Vegetable Soup

Serving Size:
6
Time:
45 mins
Difficulty:
intermediate
  • 2 small carrots, diced
  • 2 celery stalks, diced
  • 1 yellow onion, chopped
  • 2 small zucchini, diced
  • 1 small butternut squash, diced
  • 1 bunch escarole, chopped
  • ½ cup peas, frozen
  • 1 tablespoon basil leaves, chopped
  • 1 tablespoon parsley, chopped ¼ cup Parmigiano Reggiano, grated
  • 6 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil, plus extra for bread and for drizzling on soup
  • 4 quarts chicken stock
  • 1 small ciabatta bread
  • Sea salt to taste
  • Pepper to taste

Directions

  1. Sauté carrots, celery and onions in a large stock pot over medium heat, for approximately 5 minutes, making sure that you stir the vegetables while they cook
  2. Add chicken stock to the pan. Increase the heat to high, cover the pan, bring to a boil and then reduce the heat to medium-low. Cook for 10-15 minutes.
  3. Slice bread into 1” thick slices. Brush slices with the additional olive oil on both sides and place in a sauté pan over low heat. Turn bread slices once and cook until they are golden brown. Place bread in a tray and lightly sprinkle with sea salt. Set aside.
  4. Add butternut squash to the stockpot and cook for 3 minutes.
  5. Add zucchini and peas to the stockpot and cook for 3 more minutes.
  6. Add escarole, basil, parsley, salt and pepper and cook for 4 additional minutes.
  7. Remove two ladles of soup from the stockpot and puree in a blender, then return the pureed soup to the pot (the puree will thicken the soup). Stir and cook for 1 minute, then turn off the heat.
  8. Add some grated cheese into the soup and stir. Ladle soup in individual bowls, drizzle oil and sprinkle additional cheese.

The same is true for healing.

The same is true for starting over.

Serve it on a warm June evening and make a toast to whatever new chapter you’re stepping into.

So Here’s Your Reminder

If you’ve been waiting for a sign to start something…

This is it.

Apply for the job. Launch the business. Write the article.

Start the podcast. Take the trip. Learn the skill.

Make the call. Send the email. Try.

Dreams take time.

Because as Anthony Bourdain reminded us:

“Your body is not a temple. It’s an amusement park. Enjoy the ride.”

Life is messy.

The path rarely unfolds exactly as planned.

But the alternative—never trying at all—is far worse.

Summer is here.

A new season is beginning.

And maybe your next chapter is waiting on the other side of one brave decision.

Here’s to fresh starts.

Here’s to curiosity.

Here’s to hope.

And here’s to failing gloriously.

Because sometimes that’s exactly how the best stories begin.

With gratitude,

Kristen

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Gutsch’s Famous Linguine & Clams Recipe | Easy Garlic Butter Seafood Pasta

This buttery garlic clam pasta recipe has been a family favorite for more than 35 years—and it’s still one of the best seafood pasta dishes you’ll ever make.

Summer always puts seafood on my mind.

Maybe it’s the warm weather, the longer evenings, or memories of family dinners back home in Rochester, New York. Whatever it is, there’s something about a big bowl of seafood pasta paired with a crisp glass of white wine that feels like summer itself.

One of my favorite recipes is this classic Linguine & Clams recipe from Bill Gutsch, a beloved Rochester, NY news anchor whose recipe became famous after it won a local city-woe recipe contest an appeared in the Democrat & Chronicle food section decades ago.

Long before recipes went viral on social media, great dishes spread the old-fashioned way—from newspaper clippings to recipe boxes, from neighbors to friends, and eventually to family dinner tables like ours.

My mom clipped the recipe years ago and it quickly became a family favorite. She would make it for special occasions, summer dinners, or Friday nights when everyone gathered around the table with a green salad, garlic bread, and a bottle of wine.

The Gutsch’s Linguine

To this day, every time I make it, I’m transported right back to those evenings.

Why This Linguine & Clams Recipe Works

Let’s talk about the flavor combination.

Bacon.

Butter.

Garlic.

Clams.

Fresh parsley.

Black olives.

Pasta.

Need I say more?

The salty bacon and briny clams create an incredible depth of flavor, while the butter and garlic bring everything together into a silky, savory sauce that coats every strand of linguine.

Is it diet food?

Absolutely not.

Is it worth every bite?

Absolutely yes.

Sometimes it’s okay to indulge a little.

In a world obsessed with counting calories and cutting carbs, recipes like this remind us that food is meant to be enjoyed. There’s something comforting about old-school recipes that don’t apologize for being rich, satisfying, and delicious.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to appreciate these recipes even more. They’re not just meals—they’re memories. I remember my Mom and Dad making this dish on a Summer Friday night- windows open, a Frankie Valli record playing in the background, a Gin and Tonic or glass of wine in hand, just enjoying the perfect setting of a family dinner together around our kitchen table in the mid-80s.

The Perfect Summer Seafood Dinner

This easy linguine and clams recipe comes together in about 30 minutes, making it perfect for:

  • Summer entertaining
  • Date nights at home
  • Beach house dinners
  • Family gatherings
  • Casual weekend meals

Serve it with:

  • Crusty Italian bread
  • A simple green salad
  • Sauvignon Blanc
  • Pinot Grigio
  • Finger Lakes Riesling
  • Vermentino

The bright acidity of these wines balances the richness of the butter while enhancing the sweet, briny flavor of the clams.

Gutsch’s Linguine & Clams

10 minutes

Gutsch’s Famous Linguine & Clams Recipe
Prep Time 10 minutes

Cook Time 20 minutes

Total Time 30 minutes

Servings 2-4 servings

Ingredients

  • 4-5 slices bacon, cut into ¼-inch strips
  • 1/8 cup sliced green onions
  • 1 garlic clove, minced
  • 3 tablespoons butter
  • 1 (6.5-ounce) can chopped clams or baby whole clams
  • ¼ cup sliced black olives
  • 1/8 cup fresh parsley, chopped
  • Freshly ground black pepper
  • 6 ounces linguine pasta

Optional

  • ¼ cup dry white wine
  • Extra parsley for garnish
  • Freshly grated Parmesan cheese

Instructions

  1. Cook bacon in a large skillet until crisp. Remove and set aside, reserving about 1/8 cup bacon drippings in the pan.
  2. Add green onions and garlic to the skillet and sauté until tender but not browned.
  3. Stir in butter and allow it to melt completely.
  4. Drain clams, reserving the clam juice.
  5. Add clams, bacon, black olives, parsley, and black pepper.
  6. Pour in half of the reserved clam juice and, if desired, add the white wine. Simmer gently for 2-3 minutes.
  7. Meanwhile, cook linguine according to package directions until al dente. Drain.
  8. Add cooked linguine directly to the skillet and toss until evenly coated.
  9. Transfer to a serving bowl and garnish with additional parsley and black pepper.
  10. Serve immediately with crusty bread and a chilled glass of white wine.

Recipe Notes

  • Substitute olive oil for butter for a lighter version.
  • Fresh littleneck clams may be used instead of canned clams.
  • Add crushed red pepper flakes for a little heat.
  • For extra garlic flavor, double the garlic.

The Story Behind the Recipe

The full story behind this Rochester classic—including memories of family dinners, summer evenings, and why recipes like this become part of our lives for generations—is featured in my latest Substack essay.

If you enjoy food stories, nostalgia, travel, wine, and recipes inspired by memorable moments, I’d love to have you join me there.

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Final Bite

Some recipes don’t just feed us.

They transport us.

This Linguine & Clams recipe has been doing exactly that for my family for more than three decades.

A little butter.

A little garlic.

A little nostalgia.

And one very good reason to pour another glass of wine.

Salut!

— Kristen
The Artful Gourmet

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The Dish That Put Rochester NY on the Map — And Landed Me in the New York Times

There’s a moment, right before it hits the table, when Chicken French announces itself. It’s the smell that gets you first — bright lemon cutting through rich, golden butter, the faintest whisper of white wine lifting off a hot skillet. Then comes the sound: that gentle, satisfied sizzle as thin, egg-battered cutlets settle back into their velvety pan sauce, soaking up every last drop of flavor. By the time the plate is in front of you — chicken nestled on a pretty tangle of linguine, scattered with fresh parsley, glistening under the light — you’re already sold.

If you grew up in Rochester, New York, you didn’t need to be sold. You already knew. Chicken French — or Chicken Francese, if you want to get Italian about it — is as much a part of Rochester’s identity as Xerox, Kodak, Wegmans, and the famous Nick Tahou’s Garbage Plate. It’s on the menu at white-tablecloth restaurants and neighborhood diners alike. It shows up at weddings, baptisms, and Sunday dinners. It is, without exaggeration, the dish of my hometown.

And a few years ago, it became the dish that brought the New York Times to my door.


A Little Dish With a Big History

To understand why Chicken French matters so much to Rochester, you have to understand where it came from — and how it got its confusingly un-French name.

The story starts in post-World War II New York City, where Italian immigrants brought with them a recipe for vitello francese: thin veal cutlets, dredged in flour, dipped in egg, sautéed in butter, and finished with a bright sauce of lemon and white wine. The name meant “veal in the French style” — a nod to the luxurious, buttery pan sauce that felt decidedly Parisian to Italian-American cooks eager to impress their new country. It became a staple on upscale Italian-American menus across the city, cousin to the piccatas and Marsalas that defined the era.

Eventually, the dish migrated north and west, to Rochester’s large, tight-knit Italian-American community. And that’s where things got interesting.

In 1967, a restaurant called the Brown Derby opened on Monroe Avenue in Brighton. Its chef, James Cianciola — known to regulars as Chef Vincenzo — began serving his own version of veal francese, and it quickly became the restaurant’s signature. Watch how they made it at the restaurant back in the day


Then came the 1970s, and with them, a wave of animal-rights protesters who picketed against veal outside restaurants across the country. Cianciola’s solution? Swap the veal for chicken. The result was, if anything, even better — more tender, more accessible, and just as soaked in that irresistible lemony butter sauce.

Chicken French was born. And Rochester claimed it entirely as its own.

No place has embraced chicken francese more warmly than Rochester, N.Y., a city with an illustrious history of great Italian-American cooking

Soon, the Brown Derby added artichoke French, haddock French, cauliflower French. Other restaurants followed. The dish spread through the city like the best kind of rumor, each kitchen adding its own touch — sherry instead of white wine, a handful of grated Romano in the egg wash, a shower of fresh parsley over the top. Today, food historians have half-jokingly suggested the dish should be renamed “Chicken Rochester.” The rest of the world calls it Chicken Francese. We just call it Chicken French.

And we know it’s ours.


The Phone Call I’ll Never Forget

Several years ago, I wrote about Chicken French on my blog — the history, the nostalgia, my recipe, the whole love letter. I adapted my recipe from “ROCgrandma” on AllRecipes and it was absolutely delicious! Seriously one of my favorite dishes ever.

I’m a food stylist, photographer and recipe developer based in New York City (and currently Texas), but I grew up in Rochester, and this dish has always been part of my personal food story. Writing about it felt like writing about home.

The single best use of boneless, skinless chicken breasts? This Italian-American staple, with its lemony, buttery pan sauce.

What I didn’t expect was a phone call from Julia Moskin, staff food writer at the New York Times Food section.

Julia was working on a story about Chicken Francese — what it is, where it came from, and why it had become such a phenomenon. She’d found my post and wanted to talk.

So we did: about the dish, about Rochester’s Italian-American history, about the way Chicken French shows up at every important meal in that city, from casual Tuesday dinners to black-tie wedding receptions. My sister Jenni, who has worked in Rochester’s restaurant industry for over 25 years, joined the conversation — she’d watched the dish evolve from the front of the house, seen every variation imaginable come across the pass.

When the story ran, it was on the front page of the New York Times Food section — both in print and online. My name was in it. My sister’s name was in it. And Julia’s recipe, the one that accompanied the piece, was declared the single best thing you can cook with a chicken breast.

I’ll be honest: I cried a little.

But the story wasn’t finished yet. By December 2018, the New York Times had mined its cooking data for the year’s most popular new recipes. Chicken Francese came in at number one. Number one. Out of every recipe the Times published that year, this buttery, lemony, deeply humble Italian-American dish from my hometown topped the list.

When I read that, I thought about every Rochester kitchen I’d ever stood in. Every Italian grandmother who made this without a recipe. Every chef who’d perfected his or her own version over decades of dinner service. Every Rochesterian who’d ever told an out-of-towner, “You have to try the Chicken French.”

We knew. It just took the rest of the world a little while to catch up.


Why You Need to Make This Recipe

Here’s the thing about Chicken French that surprises people who’ve never made it: it’s genuinely easy. Not “easy for an experienced cook” easy. Actually, truly, weeknight easy. Start to finish, you’re looking at 35 minutes.

The secret is the egg batter. Unlike a traditional flour-only breading, dipping the cutlets in beaten egg first creates a thin, protective coating that keeps the chicken moist and tender even as it browns. It’s the same technique used in Wiener schnitzel and fritto misto — a European tradition that American fried chicken never quite adopted, and honestly, a shame it didn’t.

The other revelation is the pan sauce. Once the chicken is browned, you wipe out the skillet, melt butter, add white wine and lemon juice, let it reduce to a syrupy gloss, then pour in chicken stock and cook it down to something silky and bright and deeply savory. You tuck the cutlets back in, let them warm through in the sauce, and that’s it. That’s the whole dish.

It’s also more forgiving than it looks. The cutlets and sauce can be made a few hours ahead and gently reheated — which makes it ideal for entertaining. Your guests will think you’ve been in the kitchen for hours. You haven’t.

A few things I always do: I add a pinch of grated Parmesan and a little fresh parsley directly to the egg wash — that’s the Rochester way, and it adds depth. I plate it on a nest of linguine so the pasta soaks up the extra sauce. And I always, always add the optional browned lemon slices. They’re beautiful, slightly caramelized, and utterly delicious.

Serve it with something starchy — pasta is traditional — or alongside broccoli or green beans if you want something lighter. Pour a crisp white wine: a Soave, a Chablis, a grüner veltliner. Or Champagne, which, as the Times noted, goes remarkably well with this.

Rochesterians might not agree, but I’ll allow it.


Rochester-Style Chicken French (Francese)

Featured in the New York Times, September 2018. Recipe by Julia Moskin; recipe serving suggestions and styling notes by Kristen Hess.

Yield: 4 servings | Total Time: 35 minutes


Ingredients

  • 2 eggs
  • 2 tablespoons whole milk
  • 1 teaspoon salt, plus more for seasoning
  • ½ teaspoon ground black pepper, plus more for seasoning
  • 2 tablespoons freshly grated Parmesan or Pecorino cheese (Kristen’s addition — the Rochester way)
  • 1 tablespoon freshly minced parsley, plus 3–4 tablespoons for finishing
  • 1 cup all-purpose flour
  • ⅓ cup olive oil
  • ⅓ cup vegetable oil
  • 4 to 6 large boneless, skinless chicken cutlets, thinly sliced
  • 3 to 6 tablespoons unsalted butter
  • 1 lemon, thinly sliced, seeds removed (optional but recommended)
  • ½ cup dry white wine
  • Freshly squeezed juice of 1 lemon, more to taste
  • 2 cups chicken stock

Instructions

1. Make the batter and prep the flour. In a wide, shallow bowl, whisk together the eggs, milk, salt, pepper, Parmesan, and 1 tablespoon parsley until fully combined. Place the flour in a separate bowl. Line a baking sheet with paper towels.

2. Heat the oil. In a wide skillet, heat the olive and vegetable oils over medium heat until shimmering.

3. Bread and fry the chicken. Working in batches, lightly dredge each cutlet in flour and shake off the excess. Dip into the egg batter, let the excess drip back into the bowl, then place in the skillet. Fry, turning once, until golden brown on both sides — about 4 minutes per side. Adjust the heat as needed so the cutlets brown slowly and evenly. Transfer to the paper-towel-lined pan. Repeat with remaining cutlets.

4. Wipe the pan. Remove the pan from the heat and carefully pour off the oil. Wipe it clean with paper towels, then return it to low heat.

5. Brown the lemon slices (optional). Melt 3 tablespoons of butter and scatter the lemon slices across the pan. Cook gently, stirring occasionally, until the slices are golden and beginning to caramelize at the edges, about 3 minutes. Remove and set aside.

6. Make the pan sauce. Add 3 tablespoons of butter to the pan along with the wine and lemon juice. Bring to a boil and cook until the liquid reduces to a syrupy glaze, about 3 to 4 minutes. Pour in the chicken stock, bring back to a boil, and cook until the sauce thickens, about 5 minutes. Taste and adjust with more lemon, salt, and pepper — it should be quite lemony and bright.

7. Finish and serve. Reduce the heat and nestle the cutlets back into the pan. Simmer very gently until the sauce is velvety and the chicken is warmed through, about 4 minutes, turning the cutlets occasionally so they’re coated all over. Lay the browned lemon slices on top. Sprinkle generously with fresh parsley and serve immediately, spooning plenty of sauce over each plate.


Kristen’s Tips

  • Plate it beautifully: Serve over a nest of linguine tossed with a little olive oil and butter. The pasta soaks up the sauce in the most glorious way.
  • Make it ahead: Brown the cutlets and make the sauce up to 3 hours in advance. Reheat gently on low heat before serving.
  • The sherry debate: Rochester restaurants are divided — sherry gives a slightly sweeter, more assertive sauce; dry white wine (I like Chablis or Pinot Grigio) keeps it crisp and clean. Try both and decide for yourself.
  • Make it your own: Try haddock French, shrimp French, or artichoke French using the same sauce. Once you master the technique, everything tastes better “French’d.”

Come Home to the Table

There’s something I love about a dish that carries a whole city inside it. Chicken French is that for me — every time I make it, I’m back in Rochester, at some long Italian dinner that stretches into the night, with a glass of wine and people I love and the smell of butter and lemon in the air.

I’m so proud that this recipe — and this little corner of upstate New York food history — made it to the front page of the New York Times. And I’m even prouder to share it with you here, in this space, where I get to write about food the way it deserves to be written about: as story, as memory, as something worth gathering around.

If you make this — and I hope you will — I’d love to know. Leave a comment below, reply on Substack, or tag me when you share it. Tell me how you served it, what wine you chose, whether you went sherry or white wine. Tell me if it took you somewhere.

For me, it always takes me home. 💛


About Me

Kristen Hess is a food stylist, photographer, recipe developer, and writer behind The Artful Gourmet. Find more recipes, food stories, and culinary inspiration on her Substack.

You can find more inspiring food stories and cooking videos on The Artful Gourmet Podcast and YouTube channel.


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From Rock Bottom to Reinvention: Author Maria Costanzo Palmer Gets #UNFILTERED

New episode on our #UNFILTERED interview series of The Artful Gourmet Podcast 🎬


What does it really mean to tell the truth—especially when it’s your own story?

In this episode of #UNFILTERED, I sit down with Maria Costanzo Palmer—author, journalist, and speaker whose work lives at the intersection of vulnerability, identity, and transformation.

We dive into her memoir “On the Rocks”, unpacking the emotional layers behind major unexpected life changes, family dynamics, and personal healing.

Maria shares what it took to write something so deeply personal, how storytelling can become a powerful tool for growth, and why owning your voice matters more than ever.

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We also explore her work in media, her local cooking class events, and what’s next—including a new book and documentary currently in the works.

This conversation is honest, raw, and deeply human—just the way we like it on #UNFILTERED.


This episode matters because shifting your narrative can restore your sense of self and spark powerful transformation. Maria shows us that our most imperfect moments, when truthfully told, become the foundation of our greatest rebirths.


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Key Takeaways

  • Why storytelling is one of the most powerful tools for healing
  • The journey from journalist to author to filmmaker
  • The emotional reality behind writing a memoir
  • How addiction and family dynamics shape identity
  • The courage it takes to share your truth publicly
  • The connection between food, memory, and personal history
  • What it really means to live “unfiltered”
  • How Maria is expanding her story into a second book, a new TV documentary + next steps in her career

Sound Bites

“Gratitude for everything that happened to me”

“Our roots and family stories shape who we are”

“Storytelling is a powerful form of healing”


Chapters/Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Kristen Hess and Maria Palmer

01:21 Maria Palmer’s Background and Journey into Writing

03:36 Family Roots and the Restaurant in McKees Rocks

04:56 Life-Changing Moments and Moving to Los Angeles

06:39 Documenting Family History and Confronting the Past

09:10 Healing Through Storytelling and Family Connections

11:37 Reuniting Family Through Food and Shared Memories

13:48 The Book Project: Writing in Multiple Voices

18:46 The Documentary Series: Production and Future Plans

26:00 Writing Challenges and Lessons Learned

32:40 Balancing Control and Collaboration in Creative Projects

45:16 Final Thoughts and Unfiltered Life Lessons


This episode dares you to confront your past, embrace your true voice, and find healing through the raw power of storytelling—because what we hide can ultimately make us whole.


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Finding Your Tribe: A Food Writer’s Retreat That Reignited My Passion

Green Gables Estate, Cresco PA

There are moments in life when something just clicks—and you don’t even realize how much you needed it until you’re right in the middle of it.

That’s exactly what happened to me this past weekend.

My Tribe Cooking Crew!

I spent a long weekend at the Substack Food Writer’s Retreat with a group of incredible women (& two men!)—chefs, food writers, cookbook authors, photographers, bloggers, and storytellers.

And here’s the wild part… most of us had never met in person before. We had only connected through Substack.

Doing Improv Group Exercises

But from the moment we arrived, something felt different.

There was this instant ease.

This shared energy.

This feeling like… oh, these are my people.


Magical fun weekend

🍷 A Weekend of Food, Stories & Connection

The weekend was everything you’d imagine—and more.

We cooked together.

Shared meals around a big table.

Talked for hours about food, creativity, business, and life.

Laughed until we couldn’t breathe.

It was one of those experiences where time slows down just enough for you to really feel everything.

And somewhere between chopping herbs, plating dishes, and pouring glasses of wine… we became a tribe.

Not just a group of women who met at a retreat—but a community built on shared passion, mutual respect, and genuine connection.

✨ What “Finding Your Tribe” Really Means

We hear this phrase all the time—find your tribe.

But what does that actually look like?

For me, it’s not just about being surrounded by people.

It’s about being surrounded by the right people.

The ones who:

  • understand what lights you up
  • see your vision
  • support your growth
  • and remind you who you are at your core

It’s that feeling where you don’t have to explain yourself.

You don’t have to tone it down or play small.

You just show up as you are—and that’s enough.

There’s a quote by Jim Rohn that says:

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

And when you’re in a room full of creative, passionate, driven people?

You feel that shift immediately.

🌿 Why the Right Environment Changes Everything

One of the biggest takeaways from this weekend was just how much your environment impacts you.

When you’re surrounded by people who are aligned with your passions and values:

  • your creativity expands
  • your confidence grows
  • your ideas flow more freely

You start thinking bigger.

Dreaming again.

Taking yourself—and your work—more seriously.

Because you’re no longer questioning whether you belong.

You already know you do.

And that’s where real momentum begins.

🤝 Collaboration Over Competition

Something else that really stood out to me was the energy of support.

There was no competition. No comparison.

Just women genuinely cheering each other on.

Sharing ideas.

Offering advice.

Talking about ways to collaborate.

And it reminded me of something so important:

The right people don’t see your success as a threat.

They see it as inspiration.

As Brené Brown beautifully says:

“We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to.”

And that’s exactly what this experience felt like.

🍲 The Meals That Brought Us Together

Of course, no food writers retreat would be complete without an unforgettable meal.

And we had many! We all shared breakfast, lunch and dinner together

made by our individual cooking teams and everything was delicious!

For our final dinner, a few of us teamed up to create an Indian-inspired feast with street food appetizers,

Chickpea Curry, Salad, Cumin Rice, a variety of Indian Condiments and a Spiced Cake for dessert —

and I made:

Mini Curried Spinach & Queso Mini Pot Pies w/ Cilantro-Lime Yogurt Sauce

Golden, flaky pastry filled with warm curry-spiced spinach, chickpeas, and creamy queso.

Curried Spinach & Queso Mini Pot Pies

They were comforting, flavorful, and perfect for sharing—just like the weekend itself.

Curried Spinach + Queso Mini Pot Pies

By Kristen Hess / The Artful Gourmet

Baked in Muffin Pans

Makes about 24 pot pies / or 48 mini pot pies

INGREDIENTS

Puff Pastry

  • 4 sheets store-bought puff pastry or shortcrust pastry, thawed
  • Flour for dusting

Spinach + Queso Filling

  • 2 1/2-3 lbs fresh baby spinach, chopped
  • 12 oz queso fresco, crumbled
  • 2 cans (15 oz each) chickpeas, drained and rinsed well
  • 2 small yellow onions, finely diced
  • 4 cloves garlic, minced
  • 3 tbsp curry powder
  • 2 tsp ground turmeric
  • 1 cup heavy cream or coconut milk
  • 2 tbsp olive oil or butter
  • Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste

Glaze

  • 2 eggs, beaten (optional, for brushing on pastry tops if using)

INSTRUCTIONS

1. Prepare the Filling

  1. Heat olive oil or butter in a large skillet over medium heat.
  2. Add the diced onions and sauté for 5–6 minutes until soft and translucent.
  3. Stir in the garlic, curry powder, and turmeric and cook for 1 minute until fragrant.

2. Cook the Spinach

  1. Add the chopped spinach in batches, stirring until wilted.
  2. Stir in the chickpeas and cook for 2 minutes.

3. Make the Creamy Sauce

  1. Pour in the heavy cream or coconut milk and simmer for 5-6 minutes until slightly thickened.
  2. Season with salt and black pepper, to taste.
  3. Remove from heat and allow the mixture to cool slightly.
  4. Fold in the crumbled queso fresco.

(The filling should be thick and scoopable, not watery.)

4. Prepare the Pastry

  1. Preheat oven to 375°F (190°C).
  2. Lightly grease two 24-cup muffin pans.
  3. Roll out the puff pastry on a lightly floured surface.
  4. Cut into 5-6-inch squares or circles.

Press each piece of pastry gently into the muffin cups to form small shells.

Note: You can also use two 24-cup mini muffin pans and cut the pastry into 3-inch circles and bake 18-22 minutes.

5. Fill the Pot Pies

  1. Spoon 1–2 tablespoons of filling into each pastry shell.
  2. Cut additional small pastry rounds or squares for the tops (if desired.)

You can either:

  • Leave them open-faced, or
  • Add small pastry lids and press lightly.

6. Egg Wash & Bake

  1. Brush the tops with beaten egg (if using).
  2. Bake for 25-30 minutes, or until:
    • pastry is golden, crunchy and puffed
    • filling is heated through

Let cool in the pan for 5 minutes, run a sharp knife around the edges of the pan to loosen the pies, then gently remove and serve on a platter with the Cilantro-Lime Yogurt Sauce drizzled on top of the pies (and extra on the side for dipping!)

Cilantro-Lime Yogurt Sauce

Makes about 2 cups

INGREDIENTS

  • 2 cups plain Greek yogurt
  • 3/4 cup fresh cilantro, finely chopped
  • 2-3 tbsp fresh lime juice
  • 1 tsp ground cumin
  • ½ tsp garlic powder (or 1 small clove minced)
  • Salt and black pepper to taste
  • Optional: 1 tsp honey or agave

INSTRUCTIONS

  1. Combine all ingredients in a bowl.
  2. Stir until smooth.
  3. Chill for 30 minutes to let flavors develop.

✨ Serving Tip

Arrange the pot pies on a platter with the yogurt sauce drizzled on top and bowl of extra sauce in the center and garnish with:

  • cilantro leaves
  • lime wedges
  • a light sprinkle of curry powder

👉🏻 Click here for the printable recipe

🌆 A Personal Wake-Up Call

If I’m being honest, this weekend was more than just a fun getaway.

It was a wake-up call.

After spending the past four years in Texas, working in a different rhythm of life and a full-time role, I didn’t realize how much I had been missing this part of myself.

This creative energy.

This sense of community.

This connection to food, storytelling, and building something meaningful.

It reminded me of my time in New York City—where I first built my business, my network, and my creative identity.

And it made one thing very clear:

I want to find my way back there.

Back to a life that feels aligned.

Back to my people.

Back to the energy that fuels me.

❤️ Why Finding Your Tribe Matters

Finding your tribe isn’t just about friendship.

It’s about alignment.

It’s about surrounding yourself with people who:

  • inspire you
  • support you
  • challenge you
  • and help you grow

It’s about creating a life—and a business—that feels authentic, fulfilling, and connected.

Because when you’re in the right room, everything changes.

A special thanks to Jenn Sharp, our amazing event hostess and organizer who brought us all together and made this retreat magical for all of us!
And another shoutout to my new food tribe! You are all so talented and inspiring, and I am so happy to have met you all – I can’t wait to next year’s adventure together again! France? Italy? I’m In!

Debbie Dale BlackwellMindy CrosatoAnne-Marie PietersmaBetty WilliamsKerry FaberCulinUrsa — Elizabeth BaerAnnada D. Rathi (& her husband Dinesh), Lori Olson WhiteJanet Mary CobbElizabeth PizzinatoRebecca BlackwellKristen HessMarjory PilleySarah PilleyEmily PilleyAnne BlackwellAlex_SharpDianne JacobColton Sharp


🎧 Listen to the Full Story

If you want the full behind-the-scenes story—including more reflections from the retreat and what it taught me about life, creativity, and business—

🎧 Listen to the companion podcast episode

Finding Your Tribe: The Food Writer Retreat That Changed My Life

And listen to more episodes on The Artful Gourmet Podcast

✍️ Read the Full Essay on Substack

For a deeper, more editorial take on this experience (with more reflections + photos):

📖 Read the Substack essay here


💬 I’d Love to Hear From You

Have you found your tribe yet?

Or are you still searching for your people?

Drop a comment below or send me a message—I’d love to hear your story.


🔚 Final Thoughts

If you’ve been feeling a little disconnected lately…

or like something is missing…

Maybe it’s not that you’ve lost your way.

Maybe you just haven’t found your people yet.

And when you do?

Everything shifts.

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