Internal Resistance, Procrastination & Self-Sabotage: What’s Really Holding You Back? | #UNFILTERED Podcast

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Internal Resistance, Procrastination & Self-Sabotage: What’s Really Holding You Back?

There’s a strange kind of frustration that comes from knowing exactly what you want… and still somehow not moving toward it.

You have the idea.

The talent.

The ambition.

The vision.

And yet:

you procrastinate.

You overthink.

You stay stuck in planning mode.

You wait until the last minute.

You sabotage your own momentum.

Sound familiar?

Kam Knight, Author, Speaker and guest on UNFILTERED with Kristen Hess The Artful Gourmet Podcast

 

In the latest episode of #UNFILTERED on The Artful Gourmet Podcast, I sat down with author, speaker, and performance coach Kam Knight for one of the most eye-opening conversations I’ve had in a long time — a deep dive into the hidden psychology behind internal resistance and why so many of us unconsciously block our own growth.And honestly? This conversation hit home.

As creatives, entrepreneurs, writers, food bloggers, photographers, content creators, and business owners, we often think our biggest obstacles are external:

Not enough time.

Not enough money.

Not enough followers.

Not enough opportunities.

But what if the bigger obstacle is happening internally?

What Is Internal Resistance?

Kam describes internal resistance as the subconscious force designed to keep us safe, familiar, and emotionally protected — even when that means preventing us from going after the things we truly want.

In other words:

your brain can simultaneously create desire and resist acting on it.

Which explains so much about creative life.

Why we:

    • procrastinate on projects we care deeply about
    • stay in comfort zones too long
    • overplan instead of taking action
    • struggle with perfectionism
    • avoid visibility
    • sabotage momentum right before breakthroughs
    • cling to familiar situations that no longer align

Throughout the episode, Kam breaks down how habits, fear, people-pleasing, comfort zones, perfectionism, and even subconscious emotional patterns shape our behavior more than we realize.

Why This Conversation Resonated So Deeply

During the episode, I shared my own experiences moving from Texas back to New York, rebuilding my business multiple times, leaving corporate jobs to return to entrepreneurship, and how procrastination often shows up in my own life as “last-minute pressure productivity.”

 

And honestly, I know I’m not alone in that.

Creative people often live in contradiction:

We crave freedom… while fearing uncertainty.

We want visibility… while fearing judgment.

We dream about reinvention… while resisting change.

Especially in the world of food media, blogging, photography, podcasting, and content creation, there’s an emotional vulnerability that comes with putting your work into the world. Publishing a recipe, launching a podcast, filming yourself on camera, writing an essay, pitching a brand — all of it requires stepping beyond the familiar version of yourself.

And resistance loves the familiar.

The Hidden Forms of Self-Sabotage and the sneaky “tricks” of Internal Resistance

One of the most fascinating parts of this conversation was discussing the “tricks” of resistance.

Sometimes procrastination looks obvious: scrolling social media instead of working.

But other times it disguises itself as productivity:

    • overplanning
    • endless editing
    • perfectionism
    • researching forever
    • waiting until everything feels “ready”

Writers, bloggers, and creators know this feeling well.

The unfinished draft sitting in Notes.

The idea you almost launched six months ago.

The pitch you still haven’t sent.

The project you keep postponing until life “calms down.”

The truth?

Life rarely calms down before we begin.

Creativity Requires Moving Through Fear

One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is that resistance is not necessarily proof you’re on the wrong path.

Sometimes it’s proof you’re standing near growth.

Every meaningful leap I’ve ever taken creatively came with fear attached to it:

moving cities, starting businesses, launching podcasts, creating content on camera, reinventing my career.

The fear never fully disappeared first.

I just moved anyway.

And maybe that’s the real work of creative life:

learning how to create while fear is still present.

Not waiting until everything feels perfect.

Not waiting until certainty arrives.

Not waiting until you suddenly become fearless.

Just continuing to move forward anyway.

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Final Thought

If there’s a creative project, business idea, reinvention, or dream quietly calling to you right now… maybe this is your reminder that resistance doesn’t mean stop.

Sometimes it means you’re closer than you think.

And sometimes the most important thing we can do is simply begin.


If this essay resonated with you, I’d genuinely love to hear in the comments below:

What form of “internal resistance” shows up most in your own creative life?And what would happen if you stopped negotiating with it?

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From Rock Bottom to Reinvention: Author Maria Costanzo Palmer Gets #UNFILTERED

New episode on our #UNFILTERED interview series of The Artful Gourmet Podcast 🎬


What does it really mean to tell the truth—especially when it’s your own story?

In this episode of #UNFILTERED, I sit down with Maria Costanzo Palmer—author, journalist, and speaker whose work lives at the intersection of vulnerability, identity, and transformation.

We dive into her memoir “On the Rocks”, unpacking the emotional layers behind major unexpected life changes, family dynamics, and personal healing.

Maria shares what it took to write something so deeply personal, how storytelling can become a powerful tool for growth, and why owning your voice matters more than ever.

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We also explore her work in media, her local cooking class events, and what’s next—including a new book and documentary currently in the works.

This conversation is honest, raw, and deeply human—just the way we like it on #UNFILTERED.


This episode matters because shifting your narrative can restore your sense of self and spark powerful transformation. Maria shows us that our most imperfect moments, when truthfully told, become the foundation of our greatest rebirths.


Watch a clip from the episode


Key Takeaways

  • Why storytelling is one of the most powerful tools for healing
  • The journey from journalist to author to filmmaker
  • The emotional reality behind writing a memoir
  • How addiction and family dynamics shape identity
  • The courage it takes to share your truth publicly
  • The connection between food, memory, and personal history
  • What it really means to live “unfiltered”
  • How Maria is expanding her story into a second book, a new TV documentary + next steps in her career

Sound Bites

“Gratitude for everything that happened to me”

“Our roots and family stories shape who we are”

“Storytelling is a powerful form of healing”


Chapters/Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Kristen Hess and Maria Palmer

01:21 Maria Palmer’s Background and Journey into Writing

03:36 Family Roots and the Restaurant in McKees Rocks

04:56 Life-Changing Moments and Moving to Los Angeles

06:39 Documenting Family History and Confronting the Past

09:10 Healing Through Storytelling and Family Connections

11:37 Reuniting Family Through Food and Shared Memories

13:48 The Book Project: Writing in Multiple Voices

18:46 The Documentary Series: Production and Future Plans

26:00 Writing Challenges and Lessons Learned

32:40 Balancing Control and Collaboration in Creative Projects

45:16 Final Thoughts and Unfiltered Life Lessons


This episode dares you to confront your past, embrace your true voice, and find healing through the raw power of storytelling—because what we hide can ultimately make us whole.


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