Internal Resistance, Procrastination & Self-Sabotage: What’s Really Holding You Back? | #UNFILTERED Podcast

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Internal Resistance, Procrastination & Self-Sabotage: What’s Really Holding You Back?

There’s a strange kind of frustration that comes from knowing exactly what you want… and still somehow not moving toward it.

You have the idea.

The talent.

The ambition.

The vision.

And yet:

you procrastinate.

You overthink.

You stay stuck in planning mode.

You wait until the last minute.

You sabotage your own momentum.

Sound familiar?

Kam Knight, Author, Speaker and guest on UNFILTERED with Kristen Hess The Artful Gourmet Podcast

 

In the latest episode of #UNFILTERED on The Artful Gourmet Podcast, I sat down with author, speaker, and performance coach Kam Knight for one of the most eye-opening conversations I’ve had in a long time — a deep dive into the hidden psychology behind internal resistance and why so many of us unconsciously block our own growth.And honestly? This conversation hit home.

As creatives, entrepreneurs, writers, food bloggers, photographers, content creators, and business owners, we often think our biggest obstacles are external:

Not enough time.

Not enough money.

Not enough followers.

Not enough opportunities.

But what if the bigger obstacle is happening internally?

What Is Internal Resistance?

Kam describes internal resistance as the subconscious force designed to keep us safe, familiar, and emotionally protected — even when that means preventing us from going after the things we truly want.

In other words:

your brain can simultaneously create desire and resist acting on it.

Which explains so much about creative life.

Why we:

    • procrastinate on projects we care deeply about
    • stay in comfort zones too long
    • overplan instead of taking action
    • struggle with perfectionism
    • avoid visibility
    • sabotage momentum right before breakthroughs
    • cling to familiar situations that no longer align

Throughout the episode, Kam breaks down how habits, fear, people-pleasing, comfort zones, perfectionism, and even subconscious emotional patterns shape our behavior more than we realize.

Why This Conversation Resonated So Deeply

During the episode, I shared my own experiences moving from Texas back to New York, rebuilding my business multiple times, leaving corporate jobs to return to entrepreneurship, and how procrastination often shows up in my own life as “last-minute pressure productivity.”

 

And honestly, I know I’m not alone in that.

Creative people often live in contradiction:

We crave freedom… while fearing uncertainty.

We want visibility… while fearing judgment.

We dream about reinvention… while resisting change.

Especially in the world of food media, blogging, photography, podcasting, and content creation, there’s an emotional vulnerability that comes with putting your work into the world. Publishing a recipe, launching a podcast, filming yourself on camera, writing an essay, pitching a brand — all of it requires stepping beyond the familiar version of yourself.

And resistance loves the familiar.

The Hidden Forms of Self-Sabotage and the sneaky “tricks” of Internal Resistance

One of the most fascinating parts of this conversation was discussing the “tricks” of resistance.

Sometimes procrastination looks obvious: scrolling social media instead of working.

But other times it disguises itself as productivity:

    • overplanning
    • endless editing
    • perfectionism
    • researching forever
    • waiting until everything feels “ready”

Writers, bloggers, and creators know this feeling well.

The unfinished draft sitting in Notes.

The idea you almost launched six months ago.

The pitch you still haven’t sent.

The project you keep postponing until life “calms down.”

The truth?

Life rarely calms down before we begin.

Creativity Requires Moving Through Fear

One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is that resistance is not necessarily proof you’re on the wrong path.

Sometimes it’s proof you’re standing near growth.

Every meaningful leap I’ve ever taken creatively came with fear attached to it:

moving cities, starting businesses, launching podcasts, creating content on camera, reinventing my career.

The fear never fully disappeared first.

I just moved anyway.

And maybe that’s the real work of creative life:

learning how to create while fear is still present.

Not waiting until everything feels perfect.

Not waiting until certainty arrives.

Not waiting until you suddenly become fearless.

Just continuing to move forward anyway.

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Final Thought

If there’s a creative project, business idea, reinvention, or dream quietly calling to you right now… maybe this is your reminder that resistance doesn’t mean stop.

Sometimes it means you’re closer than you think.

And sometimes the most important thing we can do is simply begin.


If this essay resonated with you, I’d genuinely love to hear in the comments below:

What form of “internal resistance” shows up most in your own creative life?And what would happen if you stopped negotiating with it?

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Reinvention Is Power

Watch Kristen Hess in Women in Power TV series on Inside Success Networks! I’m so happy to share this amazing journey and the show with you all as there are so many other amazing and inspiring women on the show and each story, including my own is heartfelt, and full of lessons for life and business. My episode goes into how I built a life shaped by creativity, resilience, and reinvention.

Growing up in Rochester, New York, I was inspired early by art, ambition, and the electric energy of New York City. Years later, that childhood dream carried me through careers in graphic design, advertising, and ultimately into entrepreneurship as the founder of The Artful Gourmet.

As a food stylist, photographer, writer/recipe developer and creative entrepreneur, I help brands make their food beautiful while sharing mindset lessons with creators and small entrepreneurs through my Artful Gourmet Podcast series. When personal loss and unexpected challenges shake my world, I face a defining choice. Through food styling, photography, cooking, podcasting, video, and storytelling, I began transforming pain into purpose, proving that creativity, determination and resilience can reshape a life – and that your past doesn’t define your future.

Kristen Hess joins the Cast of ‘Women in Power’ on Inside Success Networks

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Kristen Hess in Women in Power TV show

Kristen Hess builds a life shaped by creativity, resilience, and reinvention. Growing up in Rochester, New York, she was inspired early by art, ambition, and the electric energy of New York City. Years later, that childhood dream carries her through careers in graphic design, advertising, and ultimately into entrepreneurship as the founder of The Artful Gourmet.

As a food stylist, photographer, and creative entrepreneur, Kristen helps brands make their food beautiful while sharing mindset lessons with creators and small entrepreneurs. When personal loss and unexpected challenges shake her world, she faces a defining choice. Through food styling, photography, and storytelling, Kristen begins transforming pain into purpose, proving that creativity and resilience can reshape a life. Watch this inspiring interview about creativity, reinvention, storytelling, and turning passion into purpose.

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Key Takeaways

  • Building a successful creative brand from scratch
  • Transitioning from advertising into food media and entrepreneurship
  • The evolution of The Artful Gourmet brand
  • Food styling and photography as storytelling tools
  • Reinvention, resilience, and creative confidence
  • Expanding into podcasting, TV, and multimedia content creation

Timestamps / Chapters

00:00 – Intro + Welcome

01:12 – Meet Kristen Hess & The Artful Gourmet

03:40 – From Advertising to Entrepreneurship

07:18 – Discovering Food Styling & Photography

11:05 – Building a Multimedia Brand

15:42 – Podcasting, Storytelling & Creative Content

19:10 – Advice for Creatives & Entrepreneurs

22:30 – Women in Power Closing Thoughts

24:00 – Where to Follow & Watch More

“At the end of the day, if you’re excited about whatever it is you’re selling, people are going to buy from you because they like you and your enthusiasm.”

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If you’ve been following along, you know I’ve been diving deeper into storytelling across platforms—and it’s been such an exciting ride.

 New episodes are live across all of my podcast series:

#UNFILTERED interview Series on The Artful Gourmet Podcast with Kristen Hess

  • #UNFILTERED — real conversations with creators, tastemakers, and innovators

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  • Into Focus — mindset, clarity, and building a creative life with intention

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  • Groovy Eats — where food, music, and nostalgia come together in the most fun, retro-inspired way

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Each one is a different lens… but all rooted in the same idea:

living creativelyboldly, and sharing that journey out loud.

✨ “The more I create, the more I realize—this isn’t just content, it’s a conversation.”

Coming Home

Coming Home to New York

And maybe the biggest shift of all…

I’ve finally moved back to New York. I’ve been planning this move for quite a while now, and the process has been a brutal one (getting out of a lease, and moving out of a huge apartment/photo studio that I’ve been in for almost 5 years. (How, just HOW do we accumulate SO MUCH STUFF???)

For now, I’ll be staying in Upstate NY helping out family for a little while in Rochester… then I’ll be moving back to the NYC full swing later in the year and I can’t wait!

It feels like a full-circle moment—returning to my roots, my creative foundation, my people. The city where so much of this journey began.

There’s something about New York that sharpens your edge, expands your vision, and reminds you what you’re capable of.

✨ “Some places don’t just inspire you—they remind you who you are.”

I’m beyond excited to step back into that energy, reconnect with friends and family, and open the door to what’s next.


Chicken Francaise recipe in The New York Times Kristen Hess

And speaking of Rochester, I wanted to share a link to my delicious Rochester-Style Famous Chicken French (Francaise) Recipe that landed me on the front page of the NY Times Food Section a few years ago when I was interviewed by Julia Moskin, Staff Food Writer for the story… The recipe and styling suggestions of mine were quite the hit! In fact, it was their #1 most popular recipe for ALL OF 2018. You have to try this, you guys, it’s absolutely amazing. And one of my proudest moments in my culinary career – EVER.


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Don’t miss it!


New Episode of Groovy Eats coming soon!

Stay tuned for my next episode of Groovy Eats coming soon!

We’re going all the way back to 1978 – for Disco Night with Donna Summer, retro cocktails, a groovy playlist and a few late night bites from a famous Tiki bar, The Islander, on Restaurant Row in LA.

So get ready for lots of sparkle, fun retro eats and drinks, lights, groovy tunes and a #disco party waiting to happen…You guys, it’s going to be SO. MUCH. FUN.

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That’s all for the news and updates for now, stay tuned for more later this month..and thanks so much for being here! Your readership and support means so much, and keeps me motivated to keep creating fun content for all of you!

If you enjoy what you’re reading and watching, feel free to share this post and our blog with your followers and friends too. Hopefully the show inspired you all to keep believing in yourself, in your dreams and to never, ever give up!

And if you’ve already watched my episode, tell me in the comments below:

What inspired you MOST from this episode of Women in Power with Kristen Hess?

🔘 Building a creative business from scratch
🔘 Food styling + photography insights
🔘 Reinventing your career path
🔘 Personal branding + storytelling
🔘 Expanding into podcasting + media
🔘 The overall entrepreneurial journey

Cheers until next time!

xo Kristen

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From Rock Bottom to Reinvention: Author Maria Costanzo Palmer Gets #UNFILTERED

New episode on our #UNFILTERED interview series of The Artful Gourmet Podcast 🎬


What does it really mean to tell the truth—especially when it’s your own story?

In this episode of #UNFILTERED, I sit down with Maria Costanzo Palmer—author, journalist, and speaker whose work lives at the intersection of vulnerability, identity, and transformation.

We dive into her memoir “On the Rocks”, unpacking the emotional layers behind major unexpected life changes, family dynamics, and personal healing.

Maria shares what it took to write something so deeply personal, how storytelling can become a powerful tool for growth, and why owning your voice matters more than ever.

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We also explore her work in media, her local cooking class events, and what’s next—including a new book and documentary currently in the works.

This conversation is honest, raw, and deeply human—just the way we like it on #UNFILTERED.


This episode matters because shifting your narrative can restore your sense of self and spark powerful transformation. Maria shows us that our most imperfect moments, when truthfully told, become the foundation of our greatest rebirths.


Watch a clip from the episode


Key Takeaways

  • Why storytelling is one of the most powerful tools for healing
  • The journey from journalist to author to filmmaker
  • The emotional reality behind writing a memoir
  • How addiction and family dynamics shape identity
  • The courage it takes to share your truth publicly
  • The connection between food, memory, and personal history
  • What it really means to live “unfiltered”
  • How Maria is expanding her story into a second book, a new TV documentary + next steps in her career

Sound Bites

“Gratitude for everything that happened to me”

“Our roots and family stories shape who we are”

“Storytelling is a powerful form of healing”


Chapters/Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Kristen Hess and Maria Palmer

01:21 Maria Palmer’s Background and Journey into Writing

03:36 Family Roots and the Restaurant in McKees Rocks

04:56 Life-Changing Moments and Moving to Los Angeles

06:39 Documenting Family History and Confronting the Past

09:10 Healing Through Storytelling and Family Connections

11:37 Reuniting Family Through Food and Shared Memories

13:48 The Book Project: Writing in Multiple Voices

18:46 The Documentary Series: Production and Future Plans

26:00 Writing Challenges and Lessons Learned

32:40 Balancing Control and Collaboration in Creative Projects

45:16 Final Thoughts and Unfiltered Life Lessons


This episode dares you to confront your past, embrace your true voice, and find healing through the raw power of storytelling—because what we hide can ultimately make us whole.


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